雙語閲讀《你可以跌倒,但要記得爬起來》

每個人都有灰心喪氣的時候。正是這段時光充實了我們的人生經歷-高潮低谷。如果我們不經歷低谷又怎麼能達到人生高潮呢？灰心，失望，失敗和挫折-都是能幫助我們保持堅強心態的東西。生命的祕訣在於從這些經歷中學習，減少我們持續萎靡灰心喪氣的時間。所以下次覺得低落的時候，試着乾乾這些：

　　1. Take the long view

　　從長遠的角度看

Discouragement generally occurs when our expectations (what we think should happen) don’t align with reality (what actually happens). In many cases our expectations are unrealistic, and this often has to do with how long we think things should happen. If we take a longer view, and relax our expectations a little, it can really help to decrease discouragement. The reality is that most things that are worthwhile take a lot of effort and time to come to fruition. So be patient!

當我們的期望(我們覺得應該發生的事情)沒有變成現實(實際發生的事情)，我們就會失望。在很多情況下，我們的期望都是不切實際的，這也和我們對時間的預估有着一定的關係。如果我們從長遠去看，放低一下期望，也能有效減輕我們的失落感。事實是最值得我們付出努力和時間最重要的事情就是等着好結果。所以耐心點吧!

　　2. Remember, there is no such thing as failure. There is only education

　　記住!沒有真正的失敗，只是成長教育而已。

When we feel like we have failed at something, discouragement often follows. However, failure doesn’t really exist, except for the meaning that we give it. If we don’t get the result that we want, when we want it, we just need to take new action.

當認為我們在某些事失敗之後，低落感也隨之而來。然而，失敗並不真正的.存在，除非我們給事情賦予了失敗的含義。如果我們沒有及時得到想要的結果，只需要採取新的行動。與其把失敗當成是一件壞事，

We can choose, instead of thinking of failure as bad, to think of failure as education, and therefore good. When we view it this way we realize that failure isn’t something that is bad, or something to be avoided. It is simply feedback. When we think this way we ease discouragement.

我們可以選擇把失敗看成是一種沉成長教育，一件好事。如果這樣看待問題，我們就會知道失敗並不是什麼壞事或者需要盡力避免的事情。只是一個小挫折而已。這樣想，低落感就能減輕啦。

　　3. Stay true to our vision. See it again in our mind

　　不拋棄理想，再做一次白日夢吧

If we are feeling discouraged, think about our vision. Think about what we want to create in our life. See it clearly. Feel what it would feel like if the image came into reality. What would this mean for us? How would we feel. Once we see it, and feel it, we will also feel empowered and our discouragement will dissipate.

感到沮喪的時候，想想自己的理想。想想我們想要獲得些什麼。仔細的去想，感受一下如果夢想成真會是什麼感受。對我們會意味着什麼?我們會有什麼樣的心情。一旦我們去幻想，去感受，就會感到充滿了力量，沮喪也就煙消雲散了。

　　4. Don’t let our ego get in the way of our development

　　不要讓自負阻礙了自我的發展

Our ego is often the primary cause of our feelings of disappointment and discouragement. It doesn’t have to be this way. We can control our ego. When we do this, we are on the path of development. When we are internally strong enough to handle constructive criticism, and feedback, we receive the rewards of growth. Growth leads to happiness.

自負往往是造成失落感和沮喪的最主要緣由。其實並不一定要這樣，我們可以控制自己。一旦控制了，我們就已經邁向了進步的階梯。一旦我們真正有能力去面對處理那些批判、挫折，我們就會得到成長的禮物。成長的盡頭是幸福。

　　5. Stop comparing ourself to others. We’re on a unique path

　　不要和別人比較，我們都是獨一無二的

A sure fire, 100% guaranteed way to get discouraged is to focus on other people in a comparative way. Here is why: we generally see their victories, successes, and strengths. We see what they have and what we don’t. We see why they are better than us. When we do this we get discouraged and we feel sorry for ourselves. We don’t as easily see their struggles, their fears, their setbacks, and their failures.

毫無疑問，一直把自己和別人比較絕對會讓我們低落。為什麼呢：我們往往看到的都是他們的成果、成功和優點。我們看到的是他們有我們卻沒有的部分，我們看到的是為什麼他們比我們優秀。一旦這樣，我們就很容易感到失望為自己感到難受。同時，我們很少去關注他們的掙扎、害怕，挫折和失敗。

So don’t do it. It isn’t empowering. Don’t compare. We are on a unique path. It is great to be inspired by another, but if by hearing another’s story, we feel that we are lesser, then we need to just focus on our own path.

所以不要這樣了，這隻會讓你更加泄氣。不要比較，我們都是獨一無二的存在着。讓別人去激勵你固然好，但如果別人的故事讓你覺得自身有所不足，那麼只需要專注自己就好了。